How quickly do you label a colleague, direct report, peer or boss an idiot? After one or two stuff ups, poorly chosen words or a funny facial expression?
I remember a mentor of mine once saying: “Why are aussies SO critical all the time?”
It seems like any minor problem will be taken as sufficient reason to write someone off entirely.
The most rewarding relationships are those that we invest in, when we truly get to know someone under a lot of different conditions.
In 2017, I discovered how rewarding seeing past someone’s reputation was and taking the time to develop a strong relationship could be. But it took TIME and openness from both sides. It meant having open conversations about things that bothered me and it meant me being open to things that bothered him. It was worth the effort.
Is there someone you have written off?
What would happen if you tried again to build a positive relationship?
What are you missing out on by being closed off to this person?
What are the differences between boundaries and letting relationships grow organically?
Are we just too critical?