Confidence Builders, Positive Motivation

30 Day Plateau Busting Challenge

What does reflection mean to you?  

Recently I felt stuck in a rut – a gratitude rut. Who knew the could happen?  I was dutifully filling out my gratitude journal every morning but something was just didn’t feel right.  I was doing things by rote and not really taking anything away from it.  I needed to shake things up and a good friend of mine suggested a 30 day challenge to bust through gratitude fatigue and really take my mindset to the next level.

So I’ve put together this awesome challenge together to help you do the same!!

What is it? 

  • a 30 day challenge to complete daily
  • a set of questions to ask yourself each day to check in with how you’re feeling about different aspects in your life
  • a quick and simple way to check in, restore and learn
  • a series of questions to prompt reflection and insight
  • a great way to set yourself up for action in 2019
30 Day Plateau Busting Challenge

30 Day Plateau Busting Challenge

What to do ?

For 30 days reflect on 2018 and write down any insights on your journey so far.

Each day divide a piece of  paper into:  

  • Insights
  • Reflections
  • Shift 
  • Change

Or use this awesome template, print it out to write down your thoughts each day.

 

How to take your thinking to the next level? 

Use these self-coaching questions, to prompt and enquire on how you feel really.

 

Insights – 

  • What have you learnt?
  • What did you discover about yourself?
  • What did you become skilled at?
  • What do you need to learn more about?
  • What were your ah-ha moments as you went about your day?

 

Reflections –

  • What did you love?
  • What did you loathe?
  • What did you enjoy?
  • What will you never do again?
  • What motivated you?
  • What didn’t?
  • Did something make you uncomfortable today – why?
  • What was your dominant feeling today?
  • How do you think about yourself today?

 

Shift –

  • What do you need to shift left, right, up or down?
  • What do you need to tweak?
  • What could be 10% different?

 

Change –

  • What needs to go?
  • What needs to come into your life?
  • What needs the opposite?
  • What needs so much more?
  • Where are you going to focus your energy next?
  • Where will you withdraw your energy?
  • What’s the one thing I’m going to do different tomorrow is…
  • What are my triggers?

 

Want to add in even MORE reflection ?

 

{Optional} At the end of each week review your notes:

  • What are your key themes?
  • Did any topic get written up every day?
  • What surprised you?
  • What didn’t?
  • What will you do next?
  • What would you most like to shift or change?
  • What insight are you proudest of?
  • What reflection lifts you up the most?

 

Want the template?

Download it here

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How to stay positive when your boss is crazy AF

Ok, I know that ‘crazy’ is the most misused word against women but sometimes we do just have a CRAZY boss to deal with.  One of the biggest challenges in my career has been dealing with bosses that are unpredictable, irrational, angry and explosive.  This has crossed genders.  Almost all people who have come to me for coaching have been experiencing a ‘crazy’ boss. The impact is loss of confidence, feeling confused, dissatisfaction in job role and industry – leading to questioning everything career wise. Questions that came up for me at this point are:

–          Am I any good at my job anymore? I used to be but now I’m not so sure.
–          Do I want to stay in IT?
–          Is this company the right place for me?
–          How long can I put up with this stress for?

Other feelings are:  not wanting to go to work, closing down and becoming perpetually exhausted.  Negative thinking often took over as well further brining me down. I have seen this with friends, colleagues and coaching clients.   Having a boss that regularly puts you down is a confidence crusher.

So I thought I’d put together my top strategies that I use for managing my mindset during such a stressful period and keeping my energy levels up.  This has made it easier for me to move on, find a new role and get out of there.

  1. Tell someone about it
  2. Get Support
  3. Exercise
  4. Work out an exit plan
  5. Focus on what’s next

These tips could easily fall under an umbrella of stay positive but really having been through this, this is not always possible.  Taking positive action will create space to take a breath and maintain your perspective.  At least aim to buffer the negativity at work, so you can boost your energy enough to move on.

1. Tell Someone about it (who will believe you)

  • Reaching out and validating that you’re not the crazy one is important. Find a friend, partner, family member or mentor to talk through what you are experiencing.  Just being heard will make you feel better

2. Get Support

  • One of my big lessons is that no woman is an island and sometimes I am not my best guru (sadly).  Find a counsellor or some level of professional support to help you through it.  From my experience doing this, is that the recovery period afterwards is always quicker if I’ve had this support during the traumatic event.  Don’t downplay your experience.  Dreading getting out of bed every day is not normal.  There’s a reason you don’t want to go to work, don’t let it impact you years down the track.  Dealing with it as much as possible in the now will mean less of a stress hangover  once you’re in your new role.

3. Exercise

  • Now is the time to maintain or create rituals that keep you balanced. Cardio and resistance exercise is the best.   Commit to doing 30 minutes everyday (yoga, weights, gym, cycling, running, ballet.)
  • Add in or up your meditation practice if you can or something that helps your mental discipline (one of my friends loves running to clear her head). Work out an exit plan

4. Create an exit plan

  • Write down a plan of how you are going to get yourself out of this situation.  Create 2 or 3 options and start pursuing them.  Get out quickly.  Look for internal and external roles, network more, keep engaged in industry events.
  • In the exit plan, write down what you want to be happening in your career  and life in 12 months time. Frame your next step by this vision.
  • Accept that you may need to move laterally and find  a life raft out.  This can be hard if like me, you’re super ambition. Focus on safety first and then get back to climbing that career ladder.

5. Focus on what’s next

  • Focus on that 12 month goal.  If you’re looking at study, start investigating options.  If you want to travel, start subscribing to ticket price alerts and turn your desktop screen saver into a shrine for your dream destination.  Start listening to podcasts, music, tedtalks that will keep you focussed on NEXT.
  • Make NEXT your NOW.

Most of all remember, you don’t deserve crazy. It is not normal to be yelled at every day, to have your boss call you 15 times in 2 minutes at 11pm, to have your boss turn up at your front door on the weekend, to rate you down because they’re jealous of your looks, to publicly humiliate you in front of your team or threaten you in any way.  It is NOT NORMAL.  You deserve normal, to be liked, to look forward to work, to enjoy friendship at work, to be praised, to be rewarded and to feel appreciated.

You are WORTH it.
 
You are enough. 
 
Good luck!

 

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